Why talk!!

Dating back to my old entries on technologies impacting our humanity (read entry here), I hereby, committed a crime. However this time, it's not about humanity, it's about real life interaction. I'm not talking to people in real life.

During my period of living on this fast moving world, I have witness the evolve of communication from pagers, to black and white phones, to coloured phone, lastly to smart phone that has outwitted the intelligence of human. It's true that the world has gotten A LOT smaller, not the literal one, meaning that the distance of human has shrunk, we no longer needa wait days for a reply, neither do we need to pray to God to hope to see someone because we just couldn't guess when will they appear, but, BUT, it has further our human relations, THE REAL TALKING.

I met up with my Secondary school's school mates (supposedly one, but more came haha) just yesterday. I owned him a Starbucks, so I whatsapp-ed him all the details of meet up. So when I reached, he wasn't alone, but that's not the case. As more people came, the frequency of me checking my phone increases. Partly because I was being an awkward ass, but half of the time when a conversation was going on, my eye couldn't leave the brightly lilted screen. I was too engrossed into another conversation with another friend. I was busy "catching up" with his life behind phone that I forgot to catch up with real people who were talking in front of me.

I remembered telling a friend of mine to stop using his phone when we met up because it's just plainly rude to ignore the existence of a real person while you were busy being alive on the social media. He said sorry and I just let the matter go. Contradicting much, I did something I swore I would never do.

Sometimes I just wondered how hard it is to put the God damn phone down just for a few hours and talk to your friends. I mean, if you needa make a phone call or insta your pictures it's perfectly fine, just make sure you don't take hour to choose that damn filter. We are too comfortable behind phone, mainly because we do not need to feel vulnerable when we bare our feelings. The phone is doing the talking, not us! But it is because of the value of vulnerability that we lost touch with our real feelings, we forgot how it is like to be anticipating into a conversation, we forgot how it feels like to be catching your breathe because you're talking about World Cup, like please, who don't love World Cup! We can't show our excited-ness behind the phone. No amount of ! can express our excitement none other than baring your expression with flying hands and suddenly-high-pitched voice.

Also, I didn't get Felfel when she asked me why am I going out with random people that I don't even know in real life. First of all, they are not really random people, we talked a little on the app, and thought that it would be better to carry the conversation outside the phone. Also, we should save the topics we are going to talk about to real life than talking about them behind phone, we are able to click on better this way and know each other better. But well, on the other hand, it's kinda dangerous to be going out with someone who you barely know for a week. Guilty.

In conclusion, I need to stop using my phone when I'm with people. Unless I'm in awkward situation, then that's another story. Also, stop using your phone when you're with me, or I will stare at you till you die.